Everyone has expectation on whatever they are doing, whoever they are in relation with, wherever they go, and so on. Student expects high score from their exam, manager expects her staff to perform the best, couple expects faithfulness from each other, and more. Expectation inspires each individual to try harder to get what they expect. If they don’t have expectation; what for?
However, is having high expectation a mistake?
Students who expect A+ from their exam, if they get only A- which is already very good compare to others, they will be very upset and feeling very down. Some people said that having this high expectation make you feel very negative about yourself. Other point of view claims that having high expectation is a guarantee of high quality. This question “is having high expectation a mistake?” remained a flexible answer. Expectation motivates people to put a lot of effort. That’s why when their effort doesn’t pay off, they are upset. However, isn’t better than not putting any effort to avoid that you don’t get upset afterward. At least, people who have high expectation give it a try.
Where jealousy does comes from? Does it also created by expectation?
First of all, there is no clear definition of this word “jealousies” or maybe there is but I don’t know. So far I am not a jealous person (I assume). Only when I have very high expectation on boyfriend, I realize that my expectation created jealousy. Logically, the first person who comes shall be the first person to be served, regardless of who you are. If you date a person before I do, you will have him because I date him later than you; however, because I am a girlfriend I expected my boyfriend to be there for me even if I date him later or at least he should had in his mind that his girlfriend needs him. Before he accepts other’s date, I expect him to ask himself “do my girlfriend needs me at this time?” Well, this sounds of course very selfish and unreasonable. Base on this experience, I concluded that my expectation create jealousy. And jealousy is selfish and unreasonable.
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ReplyDeleteI tend to associate high expectation with bad connotations. Actually, I couldn't find any thing positive about high expectation. Also, I strongly believe that 'high quality' has nothing to do with high expectation. Only passion and hard work are keys to 'high quality'
ReplyDeleteJealousy is usually the result of feeling insecure. Do you feel insecure?
ah, right. Why haven't I thought about this world "Insecure". Normally i cam very clever, but not this time. :)I guess I feel insecure, thanks for reminding.
ReplyDeleteOne positive thing about high expectation is that once our expectation is meet, we are very happy or in other words "not disappointed". It is like we are predicting the result of our hard works.
Don't worry if you feel insecure. It's perfectly normal. You are a human being. Some are better than others controlling it. But no human being can avoid it.
ReplyDeleteIt is true that we are very happy when our expectation is met. The problem is when our expectation is not met. I know at least a number of people gone literally crazy, at least two others who almost committed suicides, and a few others who couldn't have a normal relationship. All of that courtesy of high expectation.
everything has its pro (+) and con (-). the same thing to expectation. Nevertheless, it is a matter of our ability to control it. Thanks you proskmeng.
ReplyDeleteAgreed. It's just that some has more cons than pros.
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